BARRIERS IN RELATIONSHIP
Many natural and self actuated phenomenon can actually become clear barriers in relationships. This ranging from cantankerous attributes, personal status, natural coincidence up to kvetching. There are certain modes of interaction that begins to exist between couples and it will be obvious that the relationship is running out of control and heading toward crash landing. It’s not too late, a detected
solution to a challenge, makes it half tackled. Then taking a step to fix the snag, saves the stitch at nine.
The purpose of this enlightenment piece is to open your conscious mind, to wake from oblivion so you may know how to rescue your relationship from limbo in case you are there.
Sometimes, you will see a high flying relationship cruising the milk waves at high altitude such that others will desire to mimic; and all of a sudden it begins to nose down gliding in autorotation and heading toward a crash.
Fighting all day and abusing themselves all the time.
Can you seat back and ask yourself this question, “What is going wrong?”, Ask yourself this question over and over again and the solution will walk to your subconscious mind naturally. Whatever you see wrong with your partner, is what is wrong with you, because a template of your own errors will reflect it’s image as a character in someone else. It’s time to save a drowning relationship.
There are many barriers that could hinder the successful intersection of a union. But here are the few common ones that we can call primary barriers in relationship. I’ll be sharp and blunt about explicating them.
Here we go!
BARRIERS IN RELATIONSHIP
1.) MATURITY OF MIND:
When I mention maturity I don’t mean just your age, because many of those who have a high number on their age markings don’t have the actual maturity it takes to handle a relationship. This is one a reason some people will divorce sooner after the wedding party. Maturity I mean here is to let go the past errs and live in the corrected moment.
Even your brothers and sisters that grew up under the same roof with you will irk you up at times and you will be demanded to just clear your mind off and move on with life. Some utterances, attitudes, and other common behavioral errors can handle the steering of a union and trigger separation. Among the earlier stated barriers of relationship, maturity falls under the category of personal status.
Though, people break up to make up. But that should be a rare occurrence when peace of mind, personal security and liberty is threatened.
If you’re still very temperamental in reacting to your partner’s actions, I’ll advise you to purge yourself of unnecessary anger and start afresh again. Because anger and uncontrolled promiscuity are the air-fuel mixture that ignites the combustion of domestic violence and infidelity. Else if you are not yet emotionally matured enough to handle the raw character of the opposite sex, rebuild yourself and start again from afresh.
Distance can actually be a big barrier to a growing relationship because it can hamper intimacy.
Many individuals who practice distance relationship will testify that out of sight can partially or fully put a partner out of mind.
It’s never the desire of any couple nursing a relationship to substitute a vacuum in between their physical contact. Distance most at times happens as an unavoidable natural coincidence. Most individuals can sustain chastity and cultivate the habit of letting the distance to make the heart grow fonder. This is only possible with a high level of discipline inculcated by mature minds of full fledged couple with strong tide. But for beginners whom are still having complications with relationship adaptation, growing a relationship from miles away is practically challenging.
3.) THIRD PARTY LEAD:
Misunderstanding is a common element in every relationship. The problem now is how to disagree to agree. After most couple quarrels, they find it difficult to reconcile by themselves. They end up involving a third party to serve as a reconciliation medium. A third party leading your relationship is like keeping your credit card with someone else, so that whenever you want to make a transaction, the person in question will be the one to approve your request. It’s quiet insecure.
Treachery is a natural human attribute that can grow wings/legs and be ready to fly at any time, in the space of those who don’t have control over it. How did you know who’s an active carrier of perfidy? Simple, by trusting no one with sensitive informations. So in a situation whereby one particular human being is always aware of every dispute between your partner and you, he can’t just wait for when will be convenient enough to use it against you.
There are many history of marriage counselors taking advantage of the partners and the route of infidelity begin to breakout from there, later on the couple divorced. However, to save your relationship; learn to reconcile your disputes by yourselves within a short time and isolate a third party from the lead. Be Aware .
Respect and humility are primary root of love in a relationship. If for any reason, the immunity of respect is broken, contempt immediately find it’s way to habituate the relationship.
Scorn can be painful enough to bite the born marrows, especially when it’s coming from a love one. When a relationship is sauced with disdain, a cantankerous communication mode is excited. Only few relationship can survive this canker manner.
Two wrongs cannot make a right, therefore the complete set cannot go insane at a go; if it happens fight can easily break out. However, I have the solution here for you, to smolder down pique feelings to a cinder of love blend, keep a silence or say positive thing when the other partner is exasperated.
Criticism in relationship usually starts from temporal kvetch, to rude nagging and centralize in extreme criticism. It will be like pouring blames on the next person and accusing him/her for being responsible for something that went wrong. Such constant accusations will tactically drive away love and forgiveness: the next in line will be defending oneself and be ready to attack each other always.
This time around when criticism is boring a hole on the immunity of your relationship, it’s soothing most at times to speak wisely, accept the blame and apologize. This will not only relief the irked mind, but restore love. For instance “Why ain’t you picking your calls?”, Here the questionnaire is already upset for you not picking the calls. So if you respond like “Sorry I was in a meeting when you called, and I intend to call back when I’m done”. That fantastic response neutralizes the boiling anger like when you pour an ice cold water into a boiling water.
Tackle criticism with wisdom in your relationship and be rescued from sudden/unnecessary break-up that will end in regrets and heartbreak.
7.) MUTE MODE:
When in a distance or close, it’s a necessity to engage in regular communication with your partner. Even when practicing a distance relationship, with constant conversation with each other you draw the far distance near.
Mute mode is a condition in a relationship whereby the both partners turn on mute mode, as in they cease to fluently communicate, claiming to be too busy at work and so on. This is malice and it’s mostly as a result of past grouch.
On a simple note, to keep a relationship working, frequent communication is as necessary as oxygen.
8.) FINANCIAL STABILITY:
Many people does not believe that being broke can break up a relationship, but it’s true. Not having sufficient funds to push the relationship/marriage can be a great barrier.
Love is sweet, but when seasoned with money, it’s sweeter. Women love money and to keep her happy, give her money. I don’t mean lavishing money but solving her minor financial needs will go a long way.
If loving/having money is a root of evil, in fact being broke is the whole tree of evil. Because a broke man is the devil’s workshop.
Yeah, get yourself involve in something lucrative that gives you cash return. Either an entrepreneur, or as an employee.
Keep grinding you may slow down but don’t stop. Else, someday a full pocket spender will come and influence your babe with cash and will successfully inherit the love of her heart within few hours.
Hope you where able to understand the barriers in relationship with ease? Drop a comment if you did. Wish you a lovely relationship and marriage.