BREAKUPS AND DIVORCE
Breakups and divorce, has left bitterness in the heart of so many good people in the world. Though, a couple is like cat and rat staying under the same roof. They swallow each other’s pride to make that possible. Love is the binding force, that sharpens every successful intimacy to outshine breakup or divorce. Love neutralizes hatred, bypass mistakes, lay the foundation on solid rock and let the connection grow with tap roots. True affection could let a goat suck from the dog’s breasts. Zero exercise of power, we go memory lane— back to the ideal assumed life in the garden of Eden. When one is irked, the other begs for mercy, like when a goat is chasing a lion. Applying forgiveness, you earn a life long lasting marriage. That is how it’s supposed to be.
Darn! shit happens. Disintegration puts a stop to the progress of a union. It’s a loss of not just the partnership and romance shared together, but an entire ruin to the future dreams, and commitments experimented in common. There are barriers in relationship, successfully crossing those obstacles—make the union tougher to withstand external stress. Most courtship/marriage survives several misunderstandings to maintain a stable state. Many a breakups and divorce has no definition as the reason for the termination. That’s a result of compilation of unsettled scores, which has transformed into malice and dislikes. Do well to always notify your partner of anything you don’t like, instead of keeping it in mind. Because that is how relationship/marriage navigates to it’s unplanned end.
The beginning of a relationship is always rosy, romantic, and reloaded with fun, love, and trust. Is like bringing someone from the village to the city; it’s full of surprises and ecstasy. As life goes on, familiarity and disdain begin to find there way in. You find out that the person you initially worship like a demigod, suddenly being deteriorating in value and treated with scorn.
At a certain point in a relationship, things no more make sense to you. Everything about your partner irks you up. Be wary, its a sign of break up.
When a relationship fails, either you desired it or not, it’s quite painful and annoying as one experiences a pervading disappointment, stress, and grief, in trying to stabilize, and fill up the blank space.
A breakup can sail members of a union from the ocean of love, to cosmic sea of chaos. The emotional trauma involved can affect your identity as well as interaction with friends, family, and relations as everything is disrupted. But then put yourself together, as the beginning of the end is another start.
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. After the sudden collapse of a kinship, review yourself of the scars that remain, figure out which of the faults where caused by you; deduce possible solution to prevent such an error from further future occurrence. Let not a breakup to break you down, be courageous enough to rise again after you fall—the future is bright beyond prediction.
Before springing out from a relationship, check your endurance, possibility of a better future, before finally giving a zero telorance. No one would openly advise you to pull down, everyone will always beat around the bush to avoid being caught in between. When the inner instinct gives the permission to expel a particular courtship, don’t wait or look back, the missing rib is about to be discovered.
Just as break up is commonly used to describe the end of a courtship, divorce is the term that elucidates dissolution or separation of legally married couple. Divorce is not a word that couples should play with, is like the Safety Restraint Sack to the driver ( he never wants to deploy it ).
Marriage is about becoming a team, you both are supposed to be learning about yourself every now and then. Shits blow off and you will need to disagree to agree. When there’s misunderstandings, and both partners feel too big to swallow there pride, apologize and seek forgiveness; shine your eyes, the drum beat of marriage disintegration is sounding, and the signal of divorce is about to sent.
It’s quite not a very good idea to divorce, as this goes against the oath of marriage “For better for worse”, that means marriage is a lifetime institution. But when unity falls apart, and partition becomes the last option, rethink before making up your mind, because grief is encapsulated in divorce to a marriage that sailed smoothly on all rough seas.
If it’s a marriage that kids have start coming, such separation also effect the upbringing and morale of the offsprings. It entails loss of financial, intellectual, social, and emotional support. Verify if the leaking ship, can still sail before pulling out.
Sometimes, it maybe kind of easy to break up from a relationship or courtship because your mind is made up, and things are not working out anymore. But it’s really a hectic decision to break up from a marriage. Because of the high level of attachment, hopes, plans, and dreams which its loss can be more painful than physical losses; most divorced couples reconcile and remarry. But if the unfortunate happens, be courageous enough to handle the emotional and physical stress entailed.
Divorce could lead to anger, anxiety, frustration, depression and grief.
Isolation from social activities, minimizes concentration, affect input at work, interpersonal relationships, and overall health. You may need to mix up with people, and if possible open up to someone—carefully share your grief with a trusted pal. You may consult a relationship expert/counselor so as to have someone to confide in, and for more advice. Ain’t wish you divorce, but if you are divorced, let that be a better new start.
Life goes on.